People get clean and sober for many different reasons. You may want to get back custody of your kids. You may be hoping to heal your relationship with your parents. You may even hope that your clean and sober self could somehow get it together to buy a nice car!
At the end of the day, though, there’s really only one reason to follow the path of recovery – and that’s to STAY on the path of recovery, for the rest of your life.
The reason that 12 Step fellowships encourage a focus on recovery is because – as some old-timers say – anything you put before your sobriety will be the first thing you lose if you relapse.
If you throw yourself into work and miss your meetings, for example, you could relapse and lose that job.
If you decide to go on a date instead of meeting with your sponsor, you could relapse and ruin your relationship.
If you focus instead on strengthening your recovery, all of those gifts of sobriety will follow.
And when it comes to strengthening your recovery, one of the best ways to do that is by connecting with other people in recovery.
Working with newcomers and helping them get clean and sober isn’t just about paying back what you’ve been given.
Sponsoring or even just fellowshipping with other alcoholics and addicts can help remind you why you decided to get clean in the first place – and what you need to do to stay that way, one day at a time.